Sacred Touch
We all need touch. We all need to give and receive touch. It is absolutely essential for our physical and emotional well-being. Since the moment we were born we were craving for human physical contact. In fact, it is necessary for the survival of an infant to receive touch.
Sadly, in many long-term relationships we simply do not touch each other often enough.
Very often, men only touch their partners to initiate sex. But sometimes we just want to be held. It is a common complaint from women that their partners only touch them if they want to have sex. And many women often agree to having sex simply because they crave physical intimacy so much that they get their desire for closeness fulfilled through it.
Do you remember a time when that what you needed most from your partner was simply a hug?
There are so many ways we can touch and caress. Like with all else, it is the intention behind the touch that matters. If you reach out to your beloved with a loving and healing intention, your touch will convey your attitude.
The right way to touch is the way that the receiver wants to be touched. The touch needs to feel good to both of you. It is all in the quality of touch. Conscious touch brings about the most pleasure. To both - the giver and the receiver.
I firmly believe that touch not only needs to feel good to the receiver, but it needs to feel just as good to the giver.
Touch for her pleasure and for your pleasure
Here are some suggestions on how to touch when giving a sensual massage to your beloved.
- You are fully present. You are in the here and now
- Your touch is conscious
- Your touch is very, very s l o w (you simply cannot caress too slowly!)
- Your touch is sensual and as light as a feather
- Take your time and enjoy the journey. Enjoy the experience rather than striving for a goal to reach.
There is no end destination you need to get to. The journey is the destination.
- Make sure that you, as the giver, are in a comfortable position. If you are in an awkward position
and your body starts to feel uncomfortable, your touch will convey that to your beloved
Let your beloved feel through the quality of your touch how much you love and adore her
And there is one more important point that many men overlook.
Activate her heart energy before her sexual energy
As we know, women are different to men. When giving a sensual massage to men it is important to first touch the genitals and activate the sexual energy and then move the energy to the heart.
With women, on the other hand, you first need to awaken her heart energy before touching her yoni. Women shut down their sexual energy if the heart has not opened. So first, open her heart (one way that heart energy can be awakened is through caressing her breasts), then caress her yoni!
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